What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of the term ‘making love’? Probably thoughts of intimacy, lingerie, candlelight, and bubble baths. But is that all there is to it? Think about it – what do you want from a loving relationship? Are you in it just for the physical contact, or do you want more? Making love means so much more than physical, making love is about the entire relationship.
Perhaps you have heard it said that men need to make foreplay a twenty four hour a day occurrence. For a woman, physical intimacy begins in the brain so if you make her feel good mentally and emotionally in addition to physically you are well on your way to making love. The same goes for women, does your man feel loved when he walks in the door? What can you do to show your love in a mental and emotional way?
So how can you make love with your partner outside of the bedroom? There are so many ways but the most important thing you can do is get to know your partner as a person. Once you know your partners hopes and dreams, showing love in emotionally will come very easily to you. This is especially important for people who already have rocky relationships. The best way to win your love back is to take an active interest in their everyday life, then incorporate what you learn into showing love for them. If you know they generally have a bad workday on Wednesday’s, have a special meal waiting when they get home. Or take them to a movie and out to dinner. Maybe send your partner flowers or a personal email while they are working. Let them know you are thinking about them.
Perhaps one of best ways to show love is to help with mundane tasks. Do the laundry, put the kids to bed, or help in the yard. You get the picture. Sometimes it is the everyday moments that make a relationship. Women especially appreciate this type of help. It shows them that you care for them on a deeper level and you realize how much they do every day. The same is true for women showing love for their man. Take the care for an oil change, rake the leaves, take out the garbage, etc. There are so many little things that can be done every day to show love.
Of course there are the special things you can do as well – the special dinner out, a gift for no reason, etc. These things are like frosting on a cake, it is so delicious and yummy – but you really can’t eat a cake made entirely of frosting. It is too rich. You need the cake as well, so look at the everyday actions as the cake and the special extras as the frosting. The frosting is a delicious surprise, but the cake is the basis of the relationship.
By making love on the emotional and mental level first, the physical level will have so much more meaning. That translates into a deeper and more fulfilling relationship. After all, it is all about love.
